End blame game - own your acts, correct them and improve them.

 

  

 Once in the class, we were discussing why as a nation we never developed? There was a statement which I heard from a classmate that the development has the biggest barrier of a blame game in Pakistan which never helps us to grow which is eventually right. For example, the recent government will discuss the faults of the previous governments and their policies, while going back home I was thinking about it and I linked it to the human personal life in which I reached a tentative conclusion of human behavior towards its development, it’s been damaged due to the practice of blaming the things, people, and scenarios.

    Blaming is a really common practice and it means to attach your negative result of the activity on tangible or intangible things, it can be easily identified in society and casual practice in my view and with due sorry I have majorly seen that in Pakistan in my personal and professional life. If you are late from the office it is due to everything like your children, wife, traffic, car, etc. besides you which means that I am the pure soul moving on this earth surrounded by the evils.  It gives temporary relaxation to the person and considering themselves clever but eventually, the result upon their professional growth becomes a question mark and many opportunities that are helping to grow those gets to someone else (we will discuss this someone else.

Consider a house you own it, there are issues like leakage from the roof, unpaved flooring, gaps in some walls and irregular electricity wiring, whose fault it is? I believe that each of us believes that it is our fault. We own the house either we got it from the real estate agent but eventually, it is our house.  You cannot blame the mason, labors, plumber, etc. but it’s your entire fault and if you do not go to solve it you will be the one going to suffer from it, the same goes for your personality and attitude. If you are bad in your attitude, you can't talk well, you cannot make a healthy network it's all going to affect you and it's only going to affect your personality and professional life.

In my professional life, I have seen people that they ruined their life with the blame game if the student is not getting a good grade it’s all a fault of a teacher if you have any problem in life its due to your parents, you are not financially sustained it’s your parents, you cannot make good profession blames the university. I believe these all could be a factor but doesn’t it affect you? If yes then let's end your blame game. 

There are some traits which I have observed which help you to improve your attitude towards blaming and make your self responsible to deal with your problems efficiently. The following five things will always help you but if you are a regular practitioner because things never get up in one day, do it every day. Here they as follows;

Always try to think positive

Looking at things positively always acquires a lot of practice, it’s somehow impossible to be positive all the time but it is possible to shift your thought from negative to positive all the time. Just always try to take a thing with a 360 dimension. Mostly when you see when the teacher is hard on you and you consider him a reason for your bad result, but you can think of your efforts and the reasons which do not build a barrier of the ego but unlearn behavior development to prosper more. 

Being accountable for your attitude

If you come late to anyways, it’s not due to anything but lacking in your management skills. I have seen in this in my professional life that whenever I ask my employees or staff for the delays they will have a bunch of excuses but they never consider themselves accountable for the mistake it will be everything beside them. Also seeing students I saw consider all things are a hurdle for their career development teachers, administration, system, etc but their attitude is all way fine which is pushing them back from the opportunities. Always try to be accountable for your mistakes and always accept your mistakes. Being accountable will help you to improve your efficient behavior and response to the problem.

Responsibility for your activity

 Going through different projects experience I started working alone specifically in student life because I saw the burden on me of the other's responsibility and in the end, they just need credit share of work which is somehow unethical and I feel the biggest mistake we do by helping your fellows cheating in universities. Always feel the responsibility of the activity your time for avoiding the excuses or blaming the surrounded tangible and intangible factors for failing your work.

Self-dependency

               

Always try to be depending on yourself, most of the people leave their work upon the others and wait for their support and response, everyone is busy with their life and they do not have time to support you indeed. I am straight forward to it when people ask me for help and I always respond that my dear I don't have time for it. So beside you hear sorry at the end just depend on yourself and get done with your work and it will help you to build your career independently.

Self-honest

               

Being honest, yes it’s something which you have always heard Honesty is the best policy in which I say its best strategy to live your life and implemented practically. Never lie to yourself because it can satisfy you for the time being but impact your life for a long time. Be self-honest and always try to respond to yourself in the best manner.

In the end, I will just say it's your choice either to spend and die like no one or live like a human to be remembered as a legend, which is only possible if you start working on yourself and end up the blame game.